The first rule in learning something new is that we must allow ourselves to accept our current state of ignorance on the subject. The second rule is convincing our egos that the first rule is true. Trusting the certainty of our ignorance spoils the charade of our arrogance. Wisdom will follow.
Non-intervention is the “principle or practice of not becoming involved in the affairs of others.” There’s often an appeal to allow ourselves to be pulled by the desire to fix problems we are not attached to. We must first ask ourselves, “Who are we truly trying to help in this scenario?” Is it a sincere act of selflessness or self-gratification disguised as selflessness? Inaction is an action. Knowing when to act depends on knowing the intention behind the action.
There’s often a disconnect between what we want and what we’re doing. When this occurs, it’s easy to be submissive to the grind opposed to analyzing our responsibility within our inaction. How much time are we actually spending working towards what we want? What is in our control to change these percentages? This last question is a trick question because our mindset is always in our control. Even if we cannot change some of the things we have to do, we can certainly how we think about the things we have to do. In turn, this gives us the energy to devote the necessary efforts needed to focus on what we want.
Life is nourished by the choices we make. Our souls shall never experience remorse when we choose: wisdom over folly, tranquility over irritation, right action over wrongdoing, service over disservice, humility over pride.
An undisciplined life leans on hoping, wishing and chance for stability. Self-discipline via reasoned choice is never a crutch; it’s a pillar.
There are some wonderful definitions of Authentic. It’s defined as “being of undisputed origin; genuine,” philosophically as “relating to or denoting an emotionally appropriate, significant, purposive, and responsible mode of human life,” and Merriam-Webster’s version “worthy of acceptance or belief as conforming to or based on fact.”
Combine that into in the following: “Humans that live true to their undisputed origins by demonstrating an emotionally appropriate, significant, purposive and responsible way of showing the world they are worthy of love and belonging.”
If we chose to show up like this today, what would it look like? Show yourself!
If we find that our initial behavioral responses are often fueled by emotional reactivity, and that time and time again the outcomes average on the negative, perhaps we can learn something from the baseball strategy of taking the first pitch. If we can reprogram ourselves to take a beat before reacting in order to be able to observe what’s coming at us, we can increase the likelihood that how we then choose to react is based on what’s actually needed in the moment. To have instincts is human…and animal. To have instincts and the ability to think and feel beyond them is humane.