If you intend to have pride in yourself for working hard, you must also prepare your pride for the times when you will fail hard. It’s inevitable. Embrace it!
To do something once may be impressive in the moment, but all that glory fades when you try to repeat a victory you didn’t prepare for. If you are untrained and manage to pull off something accidentally on purpose, only a fool would believe they are suddenly an expert. The same goes for how we manage our emotions. We are fools to think we’ve conquered anger because we reacted once without anger. We are fools to think we’ve conquered all our fears because we once acted with courage. We are capable of conquering whatever we choose to practice enough so it becomes a natural part of our daily performance. All else is luck. The ones we know that act with integrity, honesty, courage, humility, and compassion on a daily basis are ones that understand the patience of practice. They understand the importance of self-mastery over mass-mediocrity.
In regards to earning respect or developing trust: Once is never enough. Consistency is the binding agent. Live today with integrity, humility, empathy, courage, awareness and right action. Repeat.
In this very moment, we are the oldest we’ve ever been; this fact remains with every passing second. Do whatever necessary to also get wiser with every tick of the clock. No harm can come to us for doing so.
Planning ahead and setting goals are good practice. However, if once we do so we become inflexible, we are setting ourselves up for failure. The writing process offers some valuable insight on the subject of planning and goal setting. Making a plan or setting a goal is akin to making an outline for an essay. That outline must then be followed by a shitty first draft, which requires editing. The editing process is an organic process that continues until our ideas are fully fleshed out and our intentions are presented with clarity and purpose.
The true goal of setting goals is to achieve something that’s not yet been attained. An initial idea will more often lead to a desired result if we include in our planning some space for reflection – some space for editing. Progress is not the result of a predetermined goal. Our determination, our firmness of purpose, is what needs to be inflexible – not the plan or the goal.
It doesn’t matter what chapter we’re on, it’s most important to know what type of story we’re in. Although we can’t control much of what happens, we do get to determine the genre of the story of our lives, because we get to choose how we live through what happens.
We learn from failing. In order to fail, we have to embrace the idea of bracing for impact. For that’s what affords us the opportunity to get back up and try again. If we choose to spend our time dodging obstacles or avoiding what we fear, we are really choosing to allow our minds and experiences to be stunted. We’ll grow old and gray while our minds remain adolescent and inexperienced. Avoidance is no fountain of youth, it simply creates mountains of ignorance that obstruct an enlightened view.