If offered a position that carries the weight of responsibility your current talents are not yet strong enough to uphold, do not waste time worrying about weakness – get stronger, faster. People are relying on you. You can’t wing responsibility, especially if you chose to accept the position being offered. As you’re getting stronger, your greatest strength is humility, ownership and taking responsibility for what you know are your areas of weakness.
Hard work results in calloused hands. If we’re not careful, the hard work we do on ourselves can callus our hearts. This betrays even the best efforts of our minds.
We all have blind spots. When searching for a path forward, may we use our resourcefulness to get a better sense of our surroundings. In the darkness, what our heads might first perceive as a dead end, may actually be a door. Feel around!
When surrounded by people with hands that are willing to applaud your best efforts, but won’t offer a helping hand when you’re down, get up on your own. Then, walk on.
When we blame, we tend to blame what’s right in front of us, ignoring the iceberg of situational relevance beneath the surface. For example, you experience terrible wait service at a restaurant. At the end the meal you ask to speak to the manager, and proceed to vent your frustrations about the server’s incompetence. However, did you overlook the incompetence of the manager? Somebody, not the server, was responsible for hiring the server.
Perhaps the reason the service was poor was less due to the incompetence of the server, but a problem in the meal prep and kitchen line. Perhaps your expectations about the service are the problem. Should we expect the same level of service at T.G.I Fridays or Olive Garden that we would receive at Mirazur or Osteria Francescana?
In situations like these, the more constructive route would be giving feedback to the manager explaining why the service was bad and how it reflects upon the entire establishment. If the manager is unaware of the server’s performance, you may be providing insights to help the manager coach an employee. If the manager seems unfazed by your complaint and doesn’t take action to correct the situation, the server has no opportunity to learn or improve, which increases the probability of future disgruntled diners.
In life, constructive feedback is always in season and on the menu. How we serve up our feedback is as important as what we’re giving feedback on.
When working out, we know what it feels like to work to failure, where the thought of one more rep feels like it may kill us, when in reality we know that it’s our thoughts that fail us more often than our bodies do. If we experience that point of failure with our bodies in the moment, we know that tomorrow we’ll be back. We know this because after a five minute break, when our breath and composure return to normal, we know we could do one more rep right then and there if needed. If we approach our mental efforts and daily work with the same mindset, we can push to failure and beyond.
What we do daily is the result of how we think about our choices. When that little voice in our head speaks wisely, we tend to say less, yet our words carry more weight. When that voice amplifies our egos instead of our purpose, we tend to speak too much adding little value to any conversation.