The Express Lane to Misery

Sometimes the best preparation and the best odds are beaten. Not by a vengeful god, not by a villain, not always even by a better opponent, not by anything other than the way the events transpired. Winning everything, getting everything we want whenever we want it does not the path to happiness make. Never knowing an obstacle is knowing the straightest path to misery.

Dwelling or Preparation

Knowing when to make a move is knowing when the game is lost. When you are able to see both sides of the game, you’ll never lose, for you’ve no longer given any more thought than necessary to the loss in front of you because you’re too busy moving forward. The only way to lose is to overthink what’s already been lost. That’s not preparation – that’s dwelling.

Stop Watch(ing)

Wouldn’t it be foolish to think that time stopped because our watch battery died? Yet, how many times have our choices been the equivalent? How many times have we fooled ourselves into believing that time stopped because we didn’t feel like doing anything more with our time on a given day? We can choose not to bother to look at a watch that doesn’t work; we can attempt to not look at the time. But we know better – the question becomes: Why does that knowledge not equate do doing better?

The Selflessness Trap

Support is temporary. The habit of supporting people when they aren’t in need will only support their inability to ever stand on their own. That approach is hurtful rather than helpful, and truly only serving your own ego. Avoid turning selflessness into a selfish pursuit of validation.