The word parent comes from the Latin word parere which means “to bring forth.” The dictionary definition of parent offers some interesting insight. Parent is initially defined as “a father or mother,” but has additional definitions of “an animal or plant from which younger ones are derived” and “a source or origin of a smaller or less important part.” What’s interesting here is that the definition speaks only to a “parent” as being responsible for another “things” origin – it doesn’t at all speak about what we commonly think of as parenting, or the actions associated with what it means to be a responsible care taker for what has been brought forth.
With that in mind, although we do not choose our individual origins, we’re fortunate that there’s infinite wisdom available to us in the world – all we have to do is choose to seek it out. Much like in the comics, it’s up to us to determine if our origin stories turn us into heroes or villains.
Sleep is not an escape for being idle. Sleep is restorative. Sleep feels good when we’re sleeping off a productive day. If hard work doesn’t precede sleep, there’s little need for rest. Idleness requires a jolt – not a nap. Our bodies thank us for a good night’s sleep after a hard worked day, and jolt our minds into knowing that good feeling, creating habits of desire for doing good work. Conversely, our minds will tell our bodies to stay mindlessly idle, burning fuel while going nowhere, when it senses we habitually use our time poorly.
We cannot cast blame on anyone else if we find ourselves tripping over stones we’ve once thrown. Though they may skip and bounce before coming to complete stop, we kept a close eye on them, so we know where we will find them. This also means we will know how to avoid them, step over them, or pick them up.
We are hardwired for survival. We wouldn’t be here if this truth wasn’t as old as our DNA. Survival is defined as, “the state or fact of continuing to live or exist, typically in spite of an accident, ordeal, or difficult circumstances.” Easy is defined as, “achieved without great effort; presenting few difficulties,” and “(of a period of time or way of life) free from worries or problems.” To be optimistic about the future means to fully understand that the path forward will be filled with inescapable struggle, and therefore worthwhile. Nowhere is it written otherwise.
If you were to equate your ego to square footage, how much space would your ego occupy? Would it be a tent? A studio apartment? A tiny cottage? Perhaps a mansion or sprawling estate? Once you’ve decided, now consider what your ego’s place of residence will look like from a satellite picture. Is the size of your ego’s abode all that impressive from this perspective? Even the largest estate your ego could dream up becomes an indiscriminate dot.
Being accepted for who we are as humans has a side-effect. We tend to overlook that in pursuit of wanting to be accepted for being the unique individuals that we all are, we do more to compartmentalize than unify. We make the tragic oversight that what’s most important is that we are all human – regardless of race, religion, politics, sexuality, gender identity, ethnicity or nationality. In a world that desperately needs more understanding, we fail to listen closely, look deeply, and judge our thoughts and actions as equally as we do the high standards we expect from others.
The difference between busy and productive is akin to the difference between asphyxiation and a hug.