Non-intervention is the “principle or practice of not becoming involved in the affairs of others.” There’s often an appeal to allow ourselves to be pulled by the desire to fix problems we are not attached to. We must first ask ourselves, “Who are we truly trying to help in this scenario?” Is it a sincere act of selflessness or self-gratification disguised as selflessness? Inaction is an action. Knowing when to act depends on knowing the intention behind the action.
There’s often a disconnect between what we want and what we’re doing. When this occurs, it’s easy to be submissive to the grind opposed to analyzing our responsibility within our inaction. How much time are we actually spending working towards what we want? What is in our control to change these percentages? This last question is a trick question because our mindset is always in our control. Even if we cannot change some of the things we have to do, we can certainly how we think about the things we have to do. In turn, this gives us the energy to devote the necessary efforts needed to focus on what we want.
Life is nourished by the choices we make. Our souls shall never experience remorse when we choose: wisdom over folly, tranquility over irritation, right action over wrongdoing, service over disservice, humility over pride.
An undisciplined life leans on hoping, wishing and chance for stability. Self-discipline via reasoned choice is never a crutch; it’s a pillar.
There are some wonderful definitions of Authentic. It’s defined as “being of undisputed origin; genuine,” philosophically as “relating to or denoting an emotionally appropriate, significant, purposive, and responsible mode of human life,” and Merriam-Webster’s version “worthy of acceptance or belief as conforming to or based on fact.”
Combine that into in the following: “Humans that live true to their undisputed origins by demonstrating an emotionally appropriate, significant, purposive and responsible way of showing the world they are worthy of love and belonging.”
If we chose to show up like this today, what would it look like? Show yourself!
If we find that our initial behavioral responses are often fueled by emotional reactivity, and that time and time again the outcomes average on the negative, perhaps we can learn something from the baseball strategy of taking the first pitch. If we can reprogram ourselves to take a beat before reacting in order to be able to observe what’s coming at us, we can increase the likelihood that how we then choose to react is based on what’s actually needed in the moment. To have instincts is human…and animal. To have instincts and the ability to think and feel beyond them is humane.
“Will the moon come tonight – be alright to discover – that its light is the sun’s – will it run?”
Who/what is responsible for the light we cast? Is it our bodies or our minds? Is it our choices or our reasoned choice that governs us?
Ponder all we may, what remains is this reality: Today we have choices to make, work to do, and life to live.
Cameras have focusing rings to sharpen what the camera eye sees. Flashlights have adjustable heads that have the ability to create a narrow, focused beam or cast a more diffused, washed light. A nozzle on a hose grants the ability to control not only the pressure, but how the water stream is disbursed. Similarly, when we focus our choices to consider only what is within our control, our decisions have the greatest impact. When we diffuse our choices by trying to control what we cannot, things become blurry, our vision is diffused, and the strength of our abilities becomes weakened by disbursement.