When we handle stressful situations with calmness of mind, others that let emotions get in the way have a tendency to perceive our calmness as an emotional deficiency. What they miss is that we are not unable to feel; it is not a problem a lack of emotion. It’s knowing that bringing emotion into the act of coping makes us unable to act accordingly. To cope is to deal effectively with something difficult. Synonyms are, to manage (to be in charge of) or to survive (to continue to live or exist, especially in spite of danger or hardship).
To deal effectively with our emotions and to be in charge of our emotions as a means of continuing to live. Or, to choose a form of escapism to avoid living in the moment and let our emotions decide for us how we deal. Which one of these demonstrates a deficiency?