Facts are wonderful. Their existence lends order to our chaotic world. They are the concrete slabs supporting the malleable structures we call life. However, to agree with a fact is not a special skill. Acceptance, on the other hand, is a skill. We often struggle accepting what is, because we’d prefer for things to be the way we want. What do we most often want? To be right! At least that’s what our ego’s desire.
We’ve all been in situations where we’ve been right; not because our views were our own, but because we were stating facts. When the persons in the wrong in these instances hold firm to their beliefs opposed to the truth, if we find ourselves maddened and becoming flustered, who are really we mad at? The opposing view or our egos? What good becomes of our anger? What of our own pain does it reveal? If we focus our attention to dissect what’s really bothering us, we’ll find that the greatest source of our frustration is allowing ourselves to be bothered by what’s outside our locus of control. If we can’t accept what burdens us, we’ll always be burdened by that truth. When we realize the challenge involved in learning how to accept our own burdens, we also realize we’ve lit the pathway to being compassionate and tolerant of others struggling with the burdens of accepting truths of their own.